For the majority of my life I’ve always thought that there was only one term for the type of person that drags you down and takes your energy away from you. Some of you may be familiar with this term, which is emotional vampires (also known as psychic vampires). Up until recently, whenever I encountered someone that seems to suck the positivity out of me, I've always referred to them as such. It was not until one night when I was meditating with a few grounding stones that I found an answer that put things into perspective for me.
A little backstory
For the past few years, I’ve been interacting with an individual who most of the times carry a heavy aura around them, and from early on I’ve thought of them as a vampire to my own psyche.
But there were a few things about this person that confused me with regards to psychic vampirism. The first and most noteworthy of all was that they were very generous and genuinely kind to others, and they have also generously given me some nice things throughout my interaction with them. The other confusing aspect was was that they were a healer, and a pretty good one at that.
So I struggled to come to terms with an understanding about my interactions with this individual. How come I felt drained every time I was around them but at the same time viewed them in a favourable light when I was out of their presence?
Then the answer came to me.
They aren't a vampire.
They don’t want to take my energy or keep me suppressed in any way. They didn’t even realise the effect their energy had on others. And they are what I call an emotional or psychic bleeder.
So what are psychic bleeders?
Instead of being an endless energy vacuum, psychic bleeders unconsciously broadcast their pain psychically. They usually harbour no malice in their actions or reactions, and most of the times they are bleeding from very deep-seated (emotional) hurts that never got the chance to properly heal. And because of my own empathetic and intuitive sensitivities, I get affected by that energy.
After I had my flash of inspiration, I started to carry around a piece of tourmalated quartz to help me stay grounded in my own emotions and psyche when around or interacting with others. The next few times I found myself interacting with this person, I realised that I would hear their thoughts in my head, and feel their emotions in my heart. However, instead of being swept up in the pain and mistaking them for my own, my tourmalated quartz would deflect them back into this individual so that they can handle it themselves.
It was then that I knew for sure this was what's going on. Their mind was relying on a subconscious mechanism to psychically project their own inner shadows out so that they wouldn’t have to face them. And for me, I unintentionally ended up working on those energies within my own self for a long time, when many of the wounds weren’t even my own.
Is there anything we can do about them?
So now that we know what psychic bleeders are, what can we do if we encounter someone like that in our lives?
I believe that knowing the difference between a malicious vampire and hapless bleeder can help you on your journey to understand how we should interact and react with different people. If this person had been a true vampire, I would’ve been able easily to cut the cord, rid them from my life and keep myself away. But because they were and are a good individual with genuine intentions, I can take preventive measures when I know that I'll be around them. Little things like carrying a protective crystal, and staying aware of which energies and emotions are mine and which are theirs, can help us both on our journeys.
What I learned from this situation in the end was that this individual had been psychically bleeding out of a subconscious habit, and they were not even aware that they were doing so. By protecting my field and allowing them to experience their own psychic energies and emotions, I gave them the right platform to work on them, without having to distance myself from them in a negative way. I managed to remain a neutral third-party observer as I watched them go through the usual peaks and troughs of their own situation and build up a new perspective.
So the next time you feel your energy zapped when you are around certain people, or start dealing with issues that make no sense in your own personal story, try and take a moment to see if someone is bleeding or if they are a malicious vampire, because it can make a big difference in the way you relate to them.
Looking for more on this topic? Check out my vlog or leave me some comments below.